Parenting is an ever-evolving journey, with each generation redefining the role based on new research, technology, and cultural shifts. Today, Millennials and younger Gen X parents in Canada are often more conscious and informed than their predecessors. To understand these changes, we asked grandparents in our community to share their unfiltered views on current parenting practices.
What Grandparents Applaud
Many grandparents expressed deep admiration for the intentional and involved approach of their adult children. Anne W. noted, "My kids are so invested in their children it's beautiful! They use gentle parenting techniques... They're 100% better than I was." This sentiment was echoed by Alan A. and Rose A., who simply stated their kids are "much better parents" and have "parented an A+."
The visible shift in gender roles also received praise. Angela A. highlighted her appreciation for her "amazing hands-on dad" son-in-law who "successfully carries half the load." Others, like Maria L., celebrated the focus on traditional play, reading, and outdoor activities over technology.
There's also envy for modern conveniences. Susan S. wistfully remarked, "Just wish Amazon was a thing back then. Delivery of diapers alone would have made me continually grateful."
Concerns and Critiques from a Seasoned Perspective
Despite the praise, grandparents voiced several concerns based on their experience. A recurring theme was the confusion between gentle and permissive parenting. Marny H. advised, "People who want to do gentle parenting should really educate themselves on how it works." Marilyn C. expressed a similar worry, stating, "Too many of today's parents are their children's 'friends,' so no one is in control!"
Excessive screen time and a lack of basic manners were frequently cited as issues. Susan F.'s concern was succinct: "Too much time spent on the friggin' phone!" Karen C. emphasized the importance of respect and manners, noting that saying thank you is "almost non-existent." Ream J. observed that many children today aren't "emotionally regulated enough to use passable manners in restaurants."
Broader Societal Worries
The grandparents' observations extended beyond the home. Dawn J. criticized the "race to nowhere" that makes kids anxious through elite athletics and constant college prep. Eric R. offered a philosophical take, warning about the decline of empathy, patience, and common sense in an age of instant gratification and artificial intelligence. He cautioned, "We can't lose creativity, empathy, basic life skills as parents and teachers."
Public health also emerged as a concern, with Dawn J. criticizing declining vaccination rates, calling unvaccinated kids a "public health nuisance."
The collective wisdom from these Canadian grandparents paints a picture of a parenting generation that is deeply caring and involved, yet sometimes navigating new challenges—from screens to societal pressure—without a clear map. Their insights serve as both a commendation and a gentle reminder of timeless values.
