A reader, identified as White-Knuckled in Florida, shares concerns about an upcoming long road trip with another couple. The reader and their wife have observed the other gentleman's erratic driving behavior, including speeding, weaving through traffic, and using a cellphone while driving. This has created a white-knuckle experience for the passengers, and the wife is unwilling to be in the car with him behind the wheel. The reader seeks advice on how to broach the subject without compromising the friendship.
Abby's Response
Dear Abby advises that the friend is a dangerous driver and suggests that approaching him while he is driving would likely offend him. If the trip proceeds without allowing him to drive, he may sulk in the back seat. The best solution, according to Abby, is to cancel the trip and consider traveling together using another mode of transportation in the future to preserve the friendship.
Second Letter: Concerned Grandfather
Another reader, Perplexed Grandpop in Pennsylvania, writes about his 15-year-old granddaughter who has a mental illness and has been in therapy since age 5. She has declined medication, quit extracurricular activities, and shifted to a less academic peer group. She is satisfied with mediocre grades but works a part-time job to save for a car. The grandfather worries about her future.
Abby suggests that the granddaughter may need a change of therapist and notes that her parents may have chosen not to push her academically. She points out that the granddaughter is motivated to work for a car, which is positive. Abby recommends ongoing discussion with the parents to understand the family dynamic.
